The Girl The Ex-Roommate

My new roommate situation wasn't working out so much.   She started out sleeping on the couch but it really wasn't big enough so then the two of us were sleeping in my queen sized bed but you know, that really wasn't big enough either.  It was a small (crappy) apartment and it just wasn't working out for the two of us.

The Girl didn't have a car so I drove her to work every morning and picked her up on the way home.  Sometimes, she'd hang out with a friend in the barracks and would get a ride back to the apartment.  Those were peaceful nights. 

Mostly, I just didn't like having The Girl there.

There was so little we had in common and the more I got to know her, the more I realized that we had even less in common.

And I was paying for all of our living expenses --she'd even eat all my food and not offer to buy any, despite the fact I knew she was receiving BAQ and Sep Rats (extra money each month for living expenses).  I was also incurring a bit more gas expense having to drive her around.  Then again, I'd rather she saved all of her money for that deposit and first month's rent --if she was indeed saving her money.

But I felt bad for The Girl and didn't want to put a single pregnant soldier out on the street.

So instead I offered to take The Girl apartment hunting on the weekends.  She would look but found something wrong with every single place.

And then I had it.  So one night I had a talk with her.  It went something like this:

[She had not told her family back home in Louisiana that she was pregnant, she was afraid to tell them.]

There are consequences to our behaviors and sometimes those consequences are long lasting.  You knew you were involved with a married man and you knew that was wrong.  I realized he lied and promised you the moon and the stars --that he was going to divorce his wife and you'd two live happily-ever-after; I know he deceived you.  I know that hurts and I know you still hold on some measure of hope.  Even if that was true, that he intended to build a life with you, you have to realize what a difficult life that would be.  At the very least, he would have a financial responsibility to his ex-wife and kids.  You illegally moved into military family housing and then you got an apartment with this guy --WHO IS STILL MARRIED AND LYING TO HIS WIFE.  You're young but you're also going to be a mother.  Its time to grow up, take responsibilities for your actions.  You have to think about your baby now.  In just a few months you're going to have a baby and you need to prepare a place for the two of you to live.  Also, you need to tell your family back home what is going on.  I realize how difficult this news will be to tell them but the longer you wait the more difficult it is going to be.  You need them now.  Your family can help you, support you.  That's what you need right now, you need those words of encouragement and wisdom.  Listen, this is hard for me but I have a baby on the way too.   I can't sleep well with you here, I can't really afford to have you here.  I need you to find your own place and I mean soon like, now.  This weekend.  If you can't find a place right away then you're going to have to move back into the barracks.  I'm sorry, this just isn't working out.

The Girl understood.  She said she'd just go back to the barracks.  So that next day she made arrangements to have a room in the barracks.  I then helped her move back.

It was so peaceful and nice having my (crappy) apartment back to myself.