Female Soldier Business

I felt I had no choice but to tell them what was going on.  And so when asked what was wrong . . .

Me:  I'm pregnant.

NCOIC and Sergeant - shocked looks on faces

NCOIC - Oh, so  . . . . *stutters*  well then, is this good news, I mean --er, um --you know, are you okay?

I was very uncomfortable with his line of questioning --NONE of this was any of his business.  I hated this. 

Me:  I'm fine --I was just a bit dehydrated.

NCOIC - So then . . .uh  ---- is there anyone you want us to call for you?

WHAT A STUPID IDIOTIC QUESTION!  Sure, here's a list of my closest family members --if you can just call them and tell them the news, that would be great!  The NCOIC was obviously fumbling for words and had no clue what to do or say.

Me:  Uh no, that's okay --I can handle this on my own.

Ready for question number two?

NCOIC - So are you okay then?  I mean like --you know --- are you like . . . you know, suicidal or anything?

Even the female Sergeant realizes what an idiot this NCOIC is so she interrupts and says --

Sergeant:  What Seargeant so-in-so means is, is this news upsetting to you?  Do you need to speak to a chaplain or anyone?  Is there anything we can do for you?

I'm very offended everyone is jumping to the conclusion that I was upset.  I wasn't acting upset.  I wasn't crying.  I wasn't freaking out.  I was annoyed with everyone but certainly not anywhere NEAR suicidal ---what a stupid question!!!  I guess they were assuming because I was not married this would be upsetting to me.  I can honestly say I have no idea what I felt in regards to a baby.  I mean, I'm pretty certain at this point none of that really sunk in with me.  I was just there.  Just there --alone.  The only thing really going through my mind was how on earth I was going to get in touch with Newsome.

After assuring this idiot NCOIC I was fine, I was getting ready to leave and the Sergeant said, "Sergeant so-in-so, would you please step out for a few minutes?  I want to talk to Sergeant Dodge alone, one female Sergeant to another."

He was smart enough to catch that clue and he flew out the door.  He already clearly demonstrated how ill equipped he was to handle delicate matters and there's just a part of me that doesn't blame him for that.  He was a soldier, not a pregnancy counselor.  Even so, he still behaved pretty badly but you know, I get it that he just wasn't expecting what he heard.

I'm in office with this Sergeant and I already don't like her.  I mean, for the most part she really did stick up for me and was on my side but she was anything but warm and inviting.  She stated things in a very matter-of-fact manner.  She was almost robotic which came off cold and uncaring --at least to me it did.